Back then when I attended weddings, I never thought so much on the effort behind to make the wedding good, organized, special…. I do what many others do, I simply attend, without stopping to think about the things going on behind the scenes, never really stopped to appreciate the finer details which the couple has prepared to make the wedding memorable.

I just dress up, pay my angpow, take my place, and eat.

At least I reach on time, some people took lesser effort – they arrive later than what was stated in the invitation card and being polite couples of the night, the poor couple has to wait for the latecomers to arrive to start the banquet. I’ve been to so many wedding dinners whereby dinner has to start at 8.30pm. Worst – 9pm.

Now that I’m the bride-to-be, I look back.. and I could recall certain memories. Happy ones.

I remembered being told by Sook and I was to become her bridesmaid. I remembered being really excited! I remembered shopping for a white dress and Keny’s and Sook’s excitement when I told them. Keny demanded that I dress up and show it to him and Sook before the wedding day itself. LOL I remembered taking leave from company, driving with Jack… from KL to Ipoh.. to Penang, waking up at 5am to accompany Sook for the make up…. driving from Butterworth to the bridal studio in Penang for the very first time! (wait, did I drive or did Sook drive… I think I did…). I remembered staying the night at Sook’s place before the wedding night…and falling sick the night before (I’m always allergic to Penang). Sook’s mom told me a really good tip: eat 4 vitamin Cs the night before, and 3 vitamin Cs the day after. I did that, and I woke up at 5m feeling no problem. :D

The experience was really new to me. I don’t think I did anything much, but now that I think about it… now that I am going through this experience, I know that Sook and Keny really appreciated everyone being there, and helping out… and I was glad to be part of their memorable experience.

Then it was AY’s turn. Again it’s not in KL, but in Ipoh. I remembered applying for 2 days leave and forwarding the approval email from my boss to her. I remembered calling her up and telling her I found the perfect pink satin dress, and made her really happy. I remembered going out for dinner with her and giving her ideas on what games to play on the  heng dais, then shopping for bright red bras to make fun of the heng dais on the wedding day…. Now I wished I could have helped more. I didn’t have time to help her with the photo album… I didn’t shop in Ikea with her like what KY did… I didn’t help much with her gown choosing… you know, little things like that…… things which I know will mean a lot to her…..

Then I remembered not being able to make it to another friend’s wedding because I had to attend a forex course that was planned months ago. I remembered feeling guilty… and now it’s my turn, and I know I will be disappointed if my close friends said they couldn’t make it to my wedding… sometimes, just wanting to attend the wedding is enough to make the couple happy.

Now that it’s my turn…. to be the bride-to-be, I am going through what all brides-to-be went through before. I am feeling what all the brides-to-be felt before. To me, I’m not too fussed over details. I am not the obsessed type who thinks through every single detail. Like, I don’t really care how the flowers are decorated for the banquet, whether the 4th dish comes first or the slideshow comes first, whether the door gifts are chocolates or chopsticks. But sometimes things can add up, especially if you add new home renovation together with wedding preparation… it’s quite crazy. Now that my reno is almost 70% done, I’m spending most of the effort and time in the new home… lesser on the wedding. I really appreciate those who want to come to my wedding, those who has expressed interested in attending… grateful to those who agreed to offer a lending hand (for helping us with the wedding dance, for agreeing to try choreograph something out, for agreeing to be my emcee. Just agreeing already means a lot to me, Siti! :) ) Glad that both my brothers finally bought their tickets, happy that they’ll be helping me out on my wedding day, and I will of course return the favor when it’s their turn. Happy that most of the things needed to be sorted out have already been sorted out….

I remembered being relieved when we got the wedding date sorted out… and the hotel ballroom that we wanted is vacant ( and that is because the earlier couple wanted only half the ballroom, and we have higher priority if we book the whole ballroom – so we did). Super glad that the unit that we want, the floor that we hoped could have, is ours in the end. The whole searching-for-the-right condo thing has been very dramatic. We nearly thought we wouldn’t be living in that address.

And most of all I’m glad that my fiance is sane enough to calm me down when I’m about to go crazy. When I need to complain and need reasoning, he’s there to help me think. And I’m there to help him think when he goes crazy as well. LOL. It’s not easy doing renovation while working. So glad Christine helped us. If not, I think I’ll have to stay in Cheras next year. Either that or our house will look really blah. With nothing inside! LOL.It’s already been certified that I’m really unimaginative when it comes to designing and ideas.

Like what Chris always says:”That’s why I’m the designer and you’re good with the numbers.” LOL. Good one.

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